by Michael Vennerstrom, CMP
Relationship Coaching isn't a one-session solution. It can often take many sessions to overcome the poor habits and resentments that have developed over time. However, there are a few keys that can reduce the tension and start the healing process immediately. Learning to fight fairly is one of those keys.
Fights can occur in relationships regardless of the quality of the communication and the best intentions of the partners. Sometimes they are over a big issue, but often they begin over a small infraction and then escalate into a major fight over something totally unrelated to the original issue. However, they don't have to follow that pattern. By establishing and following a few simple rules, most issues can be resolved before they become damaging to the relationship.
In my Relationship Coaching sessions, I encourage my clients to adopt these rules for fair fighting:
The first step in Relationship Coaching is to reduce the tension and build skills to communicate effectively. Fighting fairly helps a couple focus on a single specific issue so that they can constructively work together to find a solution.
Michael Vennerstrom is a Certified Life Coach and Certified Relationship Coach. After successful careers in theater and television, planning live communication events and twenty years owning and managing a meeting planning company, Mike made a decision to concentrate his energies on helping people live a more fulfilling life. Mike's personal struggles to overcome addiction, depression, grief, cancer, and divorce provided powerful lessons in overcoming adversity and living a fulfilling and purposeful life. Forged in the crucible of life experience and personal hardship, Michael has emerged as a strong and compassionate man focused on sharing the strength and knowledge gained in real-life experiences. Mike is a long-time SPIN volunteer, having recently served as Interim Executive Director and is currently acting as Director of Strategic Stuff.
This blog was originally published Michael Vennerstrom's website www.personaladvocates.net
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